Information for the Birth Father

As a birth father, you may feel left out of this process, and have very specific questions of your own. Perhaps these frequently asked questions will help.

I am not the father of this baby. I want to help the mother out, but I don't want her to tell the baby I'm the father. Can you help?

I want to be involved in this process, and the mother says it is not my business. How can I be sure that good people are raising my child?

The mother says she gets pictures of the baby as she or he is growing up. What about me?

If you have additional questions, please call us collect at 785-842-5628, or email at katie@action4adoptions.com.

I am not the father of this baby. I want to help the mother out, but I don't want her to tell the baby I'm the father. Can you help?

Unfortunately, there are some thing's that we can not have control over, like what other people say about us. What you will be asked to sign is a document that says you consent to the adoption. That will allow the mother to proceed with her plan. She may be too embarrassed to admit that there is more than one possible father. The fact that you sign this document does not acknowledge that you ARE the father, just that you COULD BE the father because you had sexual intercourse with the mother.

We work very hard with the mothers to determine who the "real" father is. The child has a right to know about his/her medical history and about his/her parents. However, we can not prevent a mother from telling the child you are the father, that is her choice.

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I want to be involved in this process, and the mother says it is not my business. How can I be sure that good people are raising my child?

Just as explained above, both parents are allowed to pick the family that they feel will be the best parents for their child. If you are in a conflict with the mother, and she does not want you involved, we can help negotiate between the two of you to insure the family selected meets your needs. ALL of the families have completed the home study process and are approved based on state standards.

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The mother says she gets pictures of the baby as she or he is growing up. What about me?

You are entitled to the same. Arrangements can be made directly with the adoptive parents, with our agency as a go between.