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9218 Metcalf #333 Overland Park, Ks 66214 Phone: 785-393-0215 |
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Birth Parents FAQAre you experiencing an unplanned pregnancy? This is a wild and crazy time for you. Not only are you faced with one of -- if not THE -- biggest decisions of your life, but your judgment and emotions are being bombarded with hormonal "craziness." The decision you make is going to effect the mother's family, the father's family, and your baby. We will not try to talk you into anything, we just want to try to listen. If we can't be of help to you, we will try to find someone who can. Frequently Asked QuestionsHow do I start to learn about adoption? What if I don't want anyone to know I'm talking to you? What if I'm not even sure I'm pregnant? What if I can't afford a doctor? Are you interested in adoption but don't have support from your peers or family? Are you afraid someone will try to talk you into something? Do you want to place your child, but want to pick your own family? Do you want to make sure that the family you pick has been approved? Can I have contact with my baby? Although many of the above FAQs effect both men and women, there are some questions that are asked only by the birth mother. For more FAQs for birth mothers click here, or birth fathers click here. |
 | Your first step is to call us at (785) 842-5628; or e-mail us at katie@action4adoptions.com. We will give you as much information as possible over the phone. We will meet with you if you want us to. You do not need to worry about transportation, we will come to you. |
What if I don't want anyone to know I'm talking to you?
| You don't even have to tell us your name to get information about adoption. We can tell you about our agency and offer you information about other places you can go for help. When and if you are ready, you can tell us your name. Our services are confidential and we will not tell anyone your name, unless you tell us that it is okay. |
What if I'm not even sure I'm pregnant?
| We will help you locate medical care as soon as possible, to determine if you are pregnant, the date your baby is due, and to help you and the baby remain healthy. |
What if I can't afford a doctor?
| We can help you locate resources for medical care and help you insure your health and the safe development of your baby. |
Are you interested in adoption but don't have support from your peers or family?
| Many people have the misconception that a person who places their child for adoption does not love that child. The reality is nothing could be further from the truth. Placing a child for adoption is not an easy choice, but is a loving choice. We often hear, "I love my baby and don't want to place her for adoption, but I can't give her what she needs;" or "it's not fair to the baby not to have two parents...;" or "I just want to do what is best for my baby." No one "wants" to give their baby away. However, some parents make a choice of adoption because they love their child enough to make the sacrifice of letting someone else raise their child. |
Are you afraid someone will try to talk you into something?
| Our role is to provide you information about adoption and refer you to another source if adoption is not right for you. Our job is to help you consider options for you and your child that will be best for both of you in the future. Whether you choose to parent your child yourself, or choose new parents, it will take time to prepare. Therefore, we encourage you to contact us as soon as possible so you can begin to plan your future and your child's future. |
Do you want to place your child, but want to pick your own family?
| Our agency believes that you should have the right (and the responsibility) of picking the family you want to raise your child. We will ask you what kind of family you are looking for, then tell you about the families that we have waiting for a child. You will be asked to select the family that YOU decide is the best for your child. You do not have to know anything about the family, if you don't want to. You have the choice. |
Will I know their names?
| Most of our adoptions are "closed." This means the identifying information (such as names, place of employment, etc.) are kept confidential. However, you may choose to see a picture of the family or talk to them on the phone or even meet them. Open adoptions can be arranged, if you want. |
Do you want to make sure that the family you pick has been approved?
| Our agency is licensed in Missouri and Kansas. We follow the guidelines established by these states to insure your baby will receive the best quality of life possible. In reading our report about the family, and meeting them yourself, you will be able to decide for yourself if the family meets YOUR guidelines. |
Can I have contact with my baby?
| Yes. In fact, we encourage you to spend time with your baby in the hospital, if you want. This gives you an opportunity to say good-bye to your baby. This will answer a lot of unanswered questions in your mind. After the finalization of the adoption, you will not have any legal rights as a parent. On the other hand, many of our birth parents make agreements with adoptive parents for pictures and letters which allow birth parents to see their children are well and happy. In some cases, adoptive and birth parents do continue to have contact. |